“Charlie, you really need to clean the garage,” I told my husband. “It’s embarrassing when your friends come over and your garage office has 2 inches of dust on your desk. Everything is such a mess.”

He would reply, “Okay,” and then never do it. So, I would go out and clean his office. I kid you not, within two days it was chaos again—minus the dust. It was so frustrating. 

It was difficult for me to understand why Charlie would say he would do something and then not follow through. It has happened a lot in our marriage in recent years.

Then I learned something profound after studying about femininity and masculinity and the beautiful balance both energies bring to the table. 

I was taking him for granted. My communication was flawed. My requests were demanding, judgmental and unkind. I needed to stop owning what I viewed as his problem, stop being a nagging wife and get clear in the way I communicated with him.

I now speak to him from a place of ‘feeling’ and love. I pay attention to all of the wonderful things he does for me and let him know how much it means.

When he takes out the garbage or puts gas in my car, which I’ve considered his job for years, I let him know how much I appreciate him and everything he does for me.

These were things I did when we were first married, but then life got in the way and I fell into the trap of overlooking the little things—the sweet things. I forgot to be grateful for the blessing he is in my life. To be fair, he was guilty too.

Paying attention has made a world of difference in, not only our relationship and how we communicate with each other, but has benefited and strengthened other associations as well.

Our conversations involve listening with heart and mind. When I speak, letting him honestly know how I feel—without placing blame and judgment—he actively listens with a desire to solve the problem.

If you are experiencing communication issues, I challenge you to take a deep look at yourself and identify areas where you can improve. The changes you implement will make a huge impact… especially if you approach a conversation from a place of nonjudgement and a willingness to work together to improve a situation. 

Recognize that in any relationship—job, marriage, family or friends—individually, you don’t have all of the answers. But with clear and open communication, you and another person can discover the answers you need to make things work.

See the dose of enlightenment below to get you started.

SIDE NOTE: The garage still isn’t clean in the way I would like it to be, but it’s better, and I can live with that—because I just love and appreciate my sweet husband so much for all the things he is doing to make me happy. 

With love,

Jeri

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Since we promised to treat you to an extra dose of light in your inbox, we include a Dose of Enlightenment for you at the end of each newsletter. We value your agency, so it’s up to you whether or not you receive it!

This Dose of Enlightenment is a frequency equation meant to clear a hidden and trapped emotion that you’ve been holding onto. 

If today's emotion is one that we have already cleared, know that we are addressing a different layer or situation this time.

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Today’s emotion is: unclear communication

How does this emotion apply to you? For best results, ponder this question and identify how unclear communication applies to you.

Dose of Enlightenment: 77 + 923 = E

Say it out loud with intent: "seventy-seven plus nine-twenty-three equals enlightenment.”

Breathe. Let it go. Feel the shift. Allow your body to be filled with light.

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The Doses of Enlightenment come from the M: Collaborations with the Divine Doctor book by Jaclyn Taylor. If you haven’t picked up a copy yet and want to learn more about how this works, you can get one here: 

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